The Freedom to be Kinky

To be kinky is to live in contrast with being conventional, vanilla, and veer off the beaten path away from the typical sex we sometimes get bored of. In order to build greater intimacy, I believe we each owe it to ourselves to find our kinks and express them lovingly within consensual healthy relationships. Having the courage to express our sexual kinks can be liberating and also a form of imaginative erotic storytelling. 

There is an awakening of the spirit within a human body that expands in its birth of sexual freedom through the art of play. For me, being kinky through the lens of playfulness with eroticism in its undertone is a harmonious balancing act and can provide great freedom. 

I find that I am equally curious of my own partner’s kinks, as much as I am thrilled to share mine. By allowing greater exploration towards our individual kinks, we ultimately deepen our understanding of ourselves and our partners. The unknown can bring excitement, mysticism, and certainly a good laugh. Laughter of course is a key component because without it, there isn’t much room to play. 

Let’s take a moment to reflect on your openness to be kinky. What turns you on? It’s important to enter this mysterious space without judgment or shame. Know along the way, you as well as your playmate will explore things you love and things you don’t. And in these findings of dangerous liaisons you will get to know your kinks and your partner’s simply by trial and error. That’s the beauty of it all, it’s called play.

It’s important to remind yourself daily that this kinky journey is an unfoldment. Be mindful that your own kinks can trigger an insecurity, shame, and even possibly ignite an uncomfortable conversation with your partner; and vice versa. When this occurs, it’s important to have compassion and create loving communication with clear boundaries. Reassurance is a great soothing tool for ourselves and partners when experiencing vulnerability. This builds trust.