Holding Space

In relationships and friendships, I think there is something to be said in being able to hold space for the ones we love. I am learning how to hold space for others by raising my own energetic frequency. While the other person is taking the time to sort themselves out, reflect, and grow, I fill myself up with more love to contain my energy. The approach is a call to remain in my own energetic field with my higher self not the fall into the other person’s rhythm.

When we remain focused in our own lane and pour love onto ourselves, the vibration of our consciousness will be joyful. From this place, we hold a level of trust in our own worth, that whatever we manifest into our lives (whether positive or negative) it can be maneuvered with steady resolve. If we can hold steady and place trust in this fundamental law of attraction, we will always feel secure in ourselves and the outcome. When grounded by self-love, we make stronger choices. 

By choosing to honor ourselves first and giving ourselves nourishment regardless of what is going on externally, we take more conscious actions. This will nurture an inward journey of self-mastery. Give yourself the permission, surrender to being divine, and live in self-acceptance. When you are aligned, whatever comes towards you in life will less likely throw you off. And if it does for a moment, you will reset quickly because you’ve built a solid foundation. As you come to an understanding that the other person is on their own journey and can only join you once they have aligned themselves; you will feel a sense of peace. We are are all on our own path in different stages of growth.

The Freedom to be Kinky

To be kinky is to live in contrast with being conventional, vanilla, and veer off the beaten path away from the typical sex we sometimes get bored of. In order to build greater intimacy, I believe we each owe it to ourselves to find our kinks and express them lovingly within consensual healthy relationships. Having the courage to express our sexual kinks can be liberating and also a form of imaginative erotic storytelling. 

There is an awakening of the spirit within a human body that expands in its birth of sexual freedom through the art of play. For me, being kinky through the lens of playfulness with eroticism in its undertone is a harmonious balancing act and can provide great freedom. 

I find that I am equally curious of my own partner’s kinks, as much as I am thrilled to share mine. By allowing greater exploration towards our individual kinks, we ultimately deepen our understanding of ourselves and our partners. The unknown can bring excitement, mysticism, and certainly a good laugh. Laughter of course is a key component because without it, there isn’t much room to play. 

Let’s take a moment to reflect on your openness to be kinky. What turns you on? It’s important to enter this mysterious space without judgment or shame. Know along the way, you as well as your playmate will explore things you love and things you don’t. And in these findings of dangerous liaisons you will get to know your kinks and your partner’s simply by trial and error. That’s the beauty of it all, it’s called play.

It’s important to remind yourself daily that this kinky journey is an unfoldment. Be mindful that your own kinks can trigger an insecurity, shame, and even possibly ignite an uncomfortable conversation with your partner; and vice versa. When this occurs, it’s important to have compassion and create loving communication with clear boundaries. Reassurance is a great soothing tool for ourselves and partners when experiencing vulnerability. This builds trust. 

Conscious Open Communication

Lately, I have been pondering about conscious open communication. Realizing the importance of creating a safe, non-judgmental, and lighthearted space for the ones I love and people I intent to have a productive conversation with. As I’ve matured, learning the grace of not needing to be right and rather choosing to be love has been challenging. It required putting my ego aside and choosing love. There is no bypass, because love usually can be felt through the tone of our voices and the energy we consciously and unconsciously release.

In the past, I can relate with needing to be defensive, reactive, and mask my insecurities through the disguise of anger. These are all of the things I’ve learned to let go of, for they are no longer serving my growth. As I began the journey and commitment to improve my communication skills, my relationships ultimately improved. I started to identify my triggers, paused to reflect, and learned to self-soothe. Having the ability to compassionately reset when I’ve taken steps that don’t feel good and take steps that feel more constructive is everything. Asking for help, releasing shame, and letting go of pride is pivotal to creating authentic power in communication. The goal is to have an open mindset, not a fixed mindset, and allow the school of life to inspire compassionate listening. 

Forgiveness is another component that is important to conscious open communication. Leaning in the direction of love rather than fear. Being lighter, more playful, and kind when feeling hurt is powerful in the art of forgiveness. 

Communication that comes from an authentic place unleashes the soul through the throat chakra emitting bountiful light. I hope my contemplations towards communication will inspire you to walk the path of love and speak from the heart. Know that to be heard, seen, and understood is similar to feeling a warm welcoming embrace when it comes to conscious open communication. Give this presence to another person when you are communicating with them. 

The Art of Arousal

The art of arousal is an inspiration from me to you, to find a muse in everyday actions + turn this spark into a way of living. inside each and everyone of us, there is an ability to ignite the fire within. self-mastery through playful wisdom is reached by being playful + lit up. when we are fully present in the moment + engage each task/connection with our totality; we are alive. there is a sexual energy unleashed when we embody our entire being in the surrender to life. this self-abandonment allows us to live beyond our minds, receive whispers from the universe as we open ourselves into a sacred space + listen more intimately with our hearts. if we desire to bring more vital energy in our daily lives, we must awaken to the idea that playfulness, love, and sexuality are the secret ingredients to activating passion. for example, we can approach grocery shopping with this awareness. yes, the art of arousal can be found in this simple task even. however, we must be willing to play. how can we make grocery shopping fun? perhaps listen to music while doing so, get a little dressed up to accomplish this task, feel the inspiration of what we will be cooking, contemplate how we can enhance the meal experience for our loved ones, allow our senses to take in the produce, and playfully flirt with ourselves. the wisdom is in finding ways to completely feel the love + gratitude in all that we do. connect to your own life force + bring the art of arousal into this present moment.